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THE FOLLOWING IS A OPEN LETTER WRITTEN BY MASHONDA (SINGER) ESTRANGED WIFE, OF SWIZZ BEATZ TO ALICIA KEYS ADDRSSING THE ALLEGED AFFAIR/RELATIONSHIP THE TWO HAVE BEEN HAVING (ALICIA AND SWIZZ). READ ON….
“After having a great evening with my son and enjoying some fun twit chat, I decided to sign off and get some work done. However, a few hours later I was advised that I should check @aliciakeys twit page (twitter). I’ve never reached out to her on twitter before. I feel our issues are a lot more serious than a website conversation. Not to mention that I’ve reached out to her many times in the beginning of this whole thing, as any wife would do. Unfortunately, I never succeeded in getting a response.
The 1st time I meet AK, my husband introduced us to each other at an event. ( I have no choice but to call him my husband, until he is not anymore) In the messages that I sent to her (AK), I made it very clear that on the contrary of what she might be hearing, I am still married to my husband, living with him and just had a child. Its been two years and I still have not received a response. What I do receive, is constant displays of selfishness and disconcern to me and my son.I was a fan of AK’s last album, we were both signed to J Records and I always checked up on her projects. I sang her songs and admired her for creating Superwoman and Karma, I would never deny her, her talent. I believed in her until I found out she was possibly sleeping with my husband. The affair was denied by both, until it was finally admitted months later.
Already I can hear some of you saying ” why are u blaming her, You cant make someone leave their wife, You cant break something thats broken”. Well, my marriage was not broken, as far as I knew we were celebrating our sons birth and getting ready to celebrate our 5 year wedding anniversary . Call it blind love, whatever. I call it being a devoted wife.. As far as me blaming her and not blaming him, thats false. Me and my husband have worked out our differences. We are in a good place as people and as parents. I accept his choices and I am comfortable enough with myself to move on. I am so very blessed in many ways.
My concern with AK is no longer the fact that she assisted in destroying a family but that she has the audacity to make these selfish comments about love and wanting to be with someone, even after knowing their situation. How is this the same Superwoman that I sang out loud with in my truck? I ask myself sometimes.
If you are reading this Alicia, let me start by saying, you know what you did. You know the role you played and you know how you contributed to the ending of my marriage. You know that I asked you to step back and let me handle my family issues. Issues that you helped to create.
Im not saying everything was perfect all the time but no relationship is perfect. We made a vow to God and I believe you should have respected that, as a woman. I know you owe me or my son nothing but I just wish you would’ve handled things more carefully. I’m not judging you, I put you and the whole situation in the hands of God, the Higher Power. Just know that as a woman, I expected so much more from you. I never had intentions on reaching out to you this way but after reading your twits tonight, and the constant disregard, you left me no choice. I feel that after 1 and a half years of you hiding this affair and acting like it doesnt exist, that now is the time to confront it, since you talk so openly about it now
This is not a publicity stunt, I dont have a record coming out. I just need to close this chapter in my life and that means confronting our issues. There is a small child involved. His dad loves him to death and he wants to spend more time with him but hes afraid because he knows we don’t have a relationship. This is my main concern. My son NEEDS his dad and I NEED to be comfortable with you. For him!
I know many will see my point and many will not be able to look into what’s real because they only want to see Alicia Keys the celebrity, not the human. This is not for the “people”, this is for you. Like I said I was left no choice but to reach out to you this way. By now, Im sure you want to find a balance in this as well.
I read your tweets tonight and I felt they were very insensitive. You have no idea how much pain I was caused because of this affair. Its baffling to me that you don’t understand what I might have gone through with this situation. I dont consider myself a victim anymore, Ive learned alot from this! I just ask you to try and be a bit more realistic and delicate to the situation, at least until my divorce is final. I felt me attending the party would have been a starting point for us, since you shook my hand after I offered it, but I suppose I was wrong.
If its so, that you and my husband are meant to be together, then God bless you both and I hope you never have to deal with what I did. I would not wish it on my worst enemy. If you two being together forever is the case, its more of a reason for us to get along, because I’m not going anywhere. Theres a child to be raised.
To answer your tweet, choose smart over spark. Sparks burn everyone, be smart! Its simple actually, just think of the shoe being on the other foot.
Stay blessed and lets work this thing out with respect and dignity.”
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OK SO THE QUESTION IS DO YOU FEEL MASHONDA HAS HANDLED THE SITUATION CORRECTLY TAKING ALL SHE HAS WRITTEN INTO CONSIDERATION ABOUT THE ALLEGED AFFAIR.
YES OR NO? VOICE UR OPINION
just be strong about it and god will work thing out you will see
i agree 100%, no matter what the child comes first and everything esle later.
i am a mother and i understand your concern.
stay bless
I have so much respect for Mashonda. This is the correct and respectful way to handle things. A real women with morals would agree 100% with her on this letter. Mashonda you are a very real and strong woman. God Bless you!!!
Actually i dont agree with Mashonda, as a female i think this is the one thing we have failed to realise about some men. Some men are stray and when your man strays you can only lash out at the woman if the said woman is your sister, otherwise the man is always to blame. So when dear Mashonda tells us that she has worked things out with Switz hence go all drama queen on us by lashing out at AK, how can one not call it a publicity stunt. You know, no offence to Mashonda but empty tins do make the loudest noise.So while all the married women will stand out and say” Oh i feel for mashonda,oh i agree with her 100 percent” Mashonda has a speck in the eye that she is not telling us about. Her marriage had ended and we women are so in love with love that even when all the signs are there we chose to ignore them, that its not working, that he aint treating you right. A man who is truly madly deeply in love with you is crazy about you he will not publicly embarass you and even if women are his weakness he wil do it in private and quietly end the affair before you ever get to know about it. But we blind ourselves, the man cheats on you left, right and central and you have the audacity to blame the other women???? C’mon guys, get out of mashondas shoes and look at this from the perspective of love, unless yall have just not experienced love???? A man who loves his wife would never do this and i know that i know that i know that i know that Mashonda knew, she knew that it was over but holding on blindly and foolishly.The only part where i agree with her is that how you get him is how you lose him and believe you me if he doesnt grow up/change then AK is in trouble coz it will happen again,but lets not forget, these two have a hitory that goes way beyonf Mashondas claims.This is teenage melodrama, its a publicity stunt to get the world to turn against AK because we all have a” miss goody two shoes “impression about her. Unfortunately it has not worked, trust me in the many discussions iv had around with friends about this issue, no one sympathizes with Mashonda. She married a stray man, AK did not come and throw herself at him and even if she had, he would have been able to tell her off, after all he loved mashonda right?? right?? Mashonda lives in a community where marriage is for money and convinience, rarely for love and thats why no one sympathisez with her.Lets stop being niave in life and learn to think more with our minds amd less with our hearts.